Author: John Hawkins Jr., M.S., L.M.H.C., M.C.A.P.

THE MYTH OF THE STAGES OF GRIEF

Posted on April 15, 2021, updated on July 13, 2023 by John Hawkins Jr., M.S., L.M.H.C., M.C.A.P.

Most people have heard of the stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. If you do a web search, you will find there are additional models with further stages: some espouse six, seven stages of grief, others ten, and even one with twelve. Now if this is starting to make your head spin… Read More

The Trauma of Betrayal

Posted on March 23, 2021, updated on July 13, 2023 by John Hawkins Jr., M.S., L.M.H.C., M.C.A.P.

The prevalence rate for infidelity over one’s lifetime ranges from 25 – 40% for men and 20-25% for woman. If you take an average U.S. population of 350,000,000 and multiply it by 25%, you come up with 87,500,000 people who have engaged in, or been the victim of, a relational betrayal. When you are experiencing… Read More

How Not To Get Retraumatized by Trauma Therapy

Posted on March 9, 2021, updated on July 13, 2023 by John Hawkins Jr., M.S., L.M.H.C., M.C.A.P.

For many individuals, just the word trauma can be highly activating. As a trauma specialist, I have gone into many centers over the years and found so much misinformation and retraumatizing that has occurred with clients. Without the adequate training and experience, many well-intentioned clinicians can retraumatize their clients in their efforts to help them… Read More

How to Get The Most Out Of Therapy

Posted on February 11, 2021, updated on July 13, 2023 by John Hawkins Jr., M.S., L.M.H.C., M.C.A.P.

Psychotherapy should be more than just a conversation. A significant percentage of my clients who attended therapy previously complain that, despite the therapist being kind and attentive, they just didn’t feel they were benefitting. They often assert, “We were just talking a lot, but I didn’t FEEL any different.” For psychotherapy to make a real… Read More

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