Most people who feel hijacked by their own reactions have never been given an accurate explanation for what is actually happening to them. They get told to calm down, to be more mindful, to manage their stress, to think before they react. None of that addresses the underlying mechanism, which is why none of it… Read More

Most of the adults I work with do not believe they have childhood trauma. They had homes. They had parents who tried. They were not abused in the ways the word trauma typically conjures. And so when their adult lives begin to feel like they are running on a script they did not write, when… Read More

In over two decades of working with individuals and couples, one of the most common patterns I encounter is also one of the most painful: people who leave a relationship convinced they’ve learned their lesson, only to find themselves sitting across from me months or years later — different partner, same problems. It’s one of… Read More