One of the things I run into with clients constantly is some version of this statement: “I know exactly why I do this. So why am I still doing it?” These are people who have looked hard at themselves. They have read the books, completed years of therapy, listened to every podcast on attachment and… Read More

Some of the most thoughtful people I have worked with came to me after years of therapy that had helped them understand everything and change almost nothing. They could explain their attachment patterns and name where their anxiety came from. They had traced their reactivity back to specific moments in childhood, done the work of… Read More