A client tells me this in the first or second session, usually before I have asked anything about it. I had a great childhood. My parents were good people. I was never abused. Nothing really happened to me. I take them at their word. Arguing would get us nowhere, and I have known this person… Read More

There is a sequence I encounter constantly in the founders and athletes I work with, and it runs in a specific order. Shame, then anger, then drive, then achievement. The reason it persists is that it works. The shame supplies the fuel, the anger converts it into something that feels powerful rather than humiliating, and… Read More